You probably start this article series because you are really completely ready to listen to the umpteenth diet guru or coach who is pushing the umpteenth diet that ultimately works temporarily (or not at all). Or maybe you are starting this article series because you have since established that all ready-made, one-size-fits-all solutions from all testosterone bombs to orthomolecular diet gurus are not suitable for you.
I write this article series in any case for the above reasons. I am writing this article series because I am convinced that I can help people to transform their bodies without having to follow an existing diet or to focus their lives on diets.
But that requires a little patience. And patience is of course not sexy. And so it is much more tempting for all health care professionals to sell the following revolutionary idea.
In the meantime, I am convinced that if diets were a religion that most diet gurus would wear a bomb belt.
But don’t be afraid, I don’t wear a bomb belt. I’m not going to ram a revolutionary diet through your throat. This article series teaches people how to transform and maintain their bodies in a sustainable way for life, without having to follow an existing diet or to focus their lives on diets.
I find it very painful to see that so many people are still struggling to transform their bodies. I have been very frustrated about this at a younger age, so I fully recognize that feeling. In the meantime, I have coached more than hundreds of people in their body transformation and I will discuss the most important principles and strategies from our coaching strategy in this article series.
Start with ourselves
Something I have learned from coaching hundreds of people in transforming their bodies is that it is essential to start with ourselves. Not with science, not with that orthomolecular diet guru, no, not with boyfriends and girlfriends, no, with ourselves. It is essential that we are open to what we are capable of and what we need.
These days it is such a huge temptation to look at what other people are doing and it is so tempting for coaches to ram their own ideals through your throat, but everyone is their own work-in-progress. Everyone has a different starting point and everyone develops in their own way. The conditions and circumstances in which someone can develop differ per person simply too much to apply a standard method.
And that is exactly what we will talk about in the following articles. We’re going to talk about transforming your body, but this time we’re not starting with what science tells us. We start with ourselves. We start with our own ability to transform our bodies and try to be truly open to what we are currently capable of and what we need. And I will try to explain as well as possible how people can become more skilled at transforming and maintaining their bodies.
I promise absolutely no result, I just hope to offer people a completely different perspective on transforming their bodies. A perspective where we do not have to follow an existing diet and do not have to focus our lives on diets.
Everyone simply rams his / her ideals through our throat and then expects us to achieve results. But it simply doesn’t work that way. It is only logical that we cannot succeed in following something that is totally out of alignment with our personal needs and skills.
In the meantime, isn’t everyone full of moral knights trying to insist that we have to eat an apple regularly and keep exercising outside of the annual resolutions of good intentions? As if people don’t understand that themselves …
Knowing & doing do not always match
The most annoying conversations I have had in my life are conversations with people who tell me how to behave, without knowing why I am not behaving that way at the moment. Most of us know very well how to behave. The problem lies in doing. And then especially find out why we do not make certain efforts, while we know very well that we must do them.
Most people just can’t do without tricks to get themselves to eat properly and get enough exercise. To hear what we have to do is not enough. We are just a few more intelligent monkeys who need tricks to apply in our lives.
The best way to understand how we can be rational in our thinking and at the same time contradictory in our actions is to start a conversation with someone who smokes a lot of cigarettes. There are no smokers who do not know that they have a greatly increased chance of developing lung cancer.
Of course we also have to deal with the addictive properties of nicotine, but I try to emphasize that knowing that and how to do it is something very different from actually doing it.
The problem with “more exercise, less food”
That many people cannot fully follow the advice to “exercise more, eat less” is not because they are unable to exercise more and eat less. It is because so far people probably have not looked beyond this advice.
Eating too much and exercising too little may be the cause of overweight, but at the same time they are the consequences of deeper causes. They are often the result of wrong habits that someone might not be aware of at the moment. Wrong habits that currently cause too much to eat and not to move.
But the only way to find out what the underlying problems are that keeps us from doing what we want to do is to shut ourselves off briefly from what others tell us and start with ourselves.
“Exercise more, eat less” does not start with advice from others, it starts with ourselves.
An infinite path where mistakes do not form obstacles, but rather the path
“Exercise more, eat less” is not something you do overnight. Learning to exercise more and eat less, without compromising your quality of life, is an art that we practice all our lives. And hopefully getting better at it.
“More exercise, less food” is a path. A path where mistakes do not form obstacles, but rather the path.
“Exercise more, eat less” is not about being strict and punishing ourselves if it just doesn’t work out. On the contrary correct. It is about compassion for the mistakes we make. Forgive ourselves for the fact that not everything always runs perfectly, so that we can learn from our mistakes. Not condemning ourselves, but trying to better understand why we make certain choices.
The solution almost never lies in being stricter in following what others advise us, almost always in understanding better why it is not possible to follow this advice. In other words: In learning. And not the umpteenth diet method, but learn more about ourselves.
I, as a coach, also follow the same learning process as everyone reading this article series. I am in no way smarter, more talented or blessed with good genes. I’ve just tried a lot and done wrong and others have tried a lot and done wrong in this area. Because of this I am in some cases just a little further on (the same) path that we all walk together. But sometimes also less far.
I will try to describe the lessons that I have already learned and apply daily in my work with our clients as well as possible, so that you can hopefully learn from this and still be a step further on the path that we all walk together.
The following topics will be covered in this article series:
- Why we should learn to transform and maintain our bodies.
- Why you know more than the testosterone bomb with large arms or orthomolecular diet guru smiling at her salads in the photo.
- How we learn to transform and maintain our bodies.
- The four most effective strategies for creating a permanent healthy and fit lifestyle.
- Why the urge to park that role oreos in our face ultimately wins.
- Why, without feeling guilty, we can perfectly eat a fat burger followed by two magnums.
- Why every white man would cry himself to sleep every day if he consistently compared himself to a North African man.