The first function of ENFJ is extraverted feeling and the second function is introverted intuition. ENFJs have the innate ability to quickly grasp the dynamics of a group and reconcile the diverse needs of its members. Extraversion also gives them the energy to interact with many people, so they often find themselves in leadership positions.
The dominant function – extraverted feeling – allows the attention of the ENFJ to be directed to its fellow human beings and their needs. The introverted intuition enables them to grasp the developmental potential of a person, and they are genuinely interested in bringing it to bear.
ENFJs are extraverted and enjoy contact with many people. They are keen to harmoniously shape their relationships. Before getting to know each other, ENFJs are usually cautious and watchful. However, this settles quickly as soon as a new contact is made. In general, it is very easy for them to make new friends.
An ENFJ is only really satisfied when its friends, family and other people entrusted to it are satisfied. In this sense, the happiness of the ENFJ is to make other people happy.
ENFJs belong to the group of idealists. With their ability to point out perspectives they are similar to the ENFP. Most of them are just as charismatic and enthusiastic about interacting with their fellow human beings and as interested in getting the best out of others. Unlike the ENFP, their visions are less focused on changing the world than on transforming the lives of individuals. They focus on the development opportunities of members of a community. They deeply believe that individuals are interested in contributing to the good of the community and are often concerned with reintegrating lost souls who have strayed from the path into loving the community. On this occasion, they are improving society, promote equal opportunities for development and the implementation of decent conditions. However, they do not go so far as to fundamentally question the society they belong to.
While the ENFP is particularly well-placed to represent the interests of others by articulating and transmitting them to the world, the ENFJ is particularly strong in assisting individuals in realizing their potential through concrete guidance. Here, he is very different from the ENFP, who is less interested in making rules for other people and directing them more through conviction and examples.
Compared to ENFPs, who are more likely to act as a lawyer, ENFJs, with their directing and engaging style of communication, are the ideal image of a teacher. They usually have strong moral beliefs and have a duty to put their students on the right track. ENFJs use their excellent communication skills to persuade other people to behave in ways that are beneficial to them. Often they are full of creative ideas to get the motivation of their pupil. For the most part, ENFJs are very convinced of the correctness of their visions and are inclined to persuade a protégé against his initial resistance to recovery. ENFJs are almost always unselfish, with the desire to do good and are often right about the necessary steps and measures.
On the other hand, the ENFJ’s conviction of knowing the key to the happiness of other people can raise problems if it disregards the autonomy of the individual in his desire to do good. Especially types with a strongly developed introverted feeling (eg ISFPs and INFPs) perceive such influence as a personal attack and are unwilling to subordinate themselves to the ideas of other people.
Moreover, the ENFJ, in its concern for the well-being of others, with its well-meaning advice and constant attempts to improve it, may lead to feelings of guilt in those who are close to it, if they are unable to meet the high expectations of the ENFJ. In the worst case, they are then trying to save the ENFJ from disappointment by withholding unfavorable information. This behavior is compounded by the fact that ENFJs are often sensitive to criticism. This is partly because of their desire for harmony but also because ENFJs are often so sure to do the right thing. Therefore, they react sometimes angry when their well-meaning advice falls on deaf ears.
The ENFJ’s high willingness to defer its own needs in favor of other people’s needs is sometimes interpreted by other types as dishonesty. However, this is wrong for the ENFJ. Most ENFJs have a very solid core of inner values that they stand for and do not touch. However, she empowers her idealism to survive longer periods of thirst in favor of her higher goals. Even more than other idealists, ENFJs are able to defy their own values and needs, if they are convinced that this is conducive to the development of others.
In fact, however, ENFJs must be careful that they do not set the wrong accents, despite all sacrifice. ENFJs who are unable to talk about their needs, downplay them, and always put them back in favor of others involuntarily create a distance between themselves and their fellow human beings. Despite their extensive circle of friends, they feel lonelier. By not acknowledging others’ human weaknesses, they seem to be intimidated by their urge to play the perfect role of father, mother, housewife, workmate, girlfriend, etc., intimidating others.
Mature ENFJs recognize this trap and are therefore becoming increasingly selective in their choice of friends. They are more willing to talk about their true, deep feelings and prefer to commit themselves to the people who recognize and appreciate them in their very essence.
ENFJs should regularly take a break from interacting with their fellow human beings. This helps them to rediscover themselves and their own needs, and often they only notice how they really think about a matter. At the same time, they protect themselves from being overly involved in the problems of others.
ENFJs are extraverted J types. They are therefore more structured and organized in coping with everyday life. In general, they have a very good sense of order and plan their day. They are usually only ready to rest, when all work is done.
As a work colleague, ENFJs are usually very popular. Usually they are in terms of soft skills, the ideal worker for all fields in which teamwork is essential. Since it is easy for them to gain the trust of employees and their bosses, they often move up the corporate ladder quite quickly. ENFJs rely on cooperation and participation in their work. Accordingly, they should avoid companies whose structures foster competition among employees and in which political maneuvers determine the prospects for advancement. Otherwise, there is a risk that they are permanently dissatisfied and burn out.