The dominant function of the INFJ is introverted intuition and its second function is extraverted feeling. In addition to the INTJ, he is one of the main users of an otherwise rather rare dominant applied cognitive process. Through this process, INFJs are capable of retrieving unconscious content to the extent that they gain solutions and insights that help them in their everyday lives. Because of the insights thus gained, many seem unusually wise as children. Often they are described by their fellow human beings as complicated and contradictory.
It is in the nature of things that the solution to an intuitively solved problem is usually obscured at the beginning. For this reason, INFJs find it hard to convince others of the correctness of their approach and it takes some practice to understand the solution in hindsight. Since INFJs have the ability to intuitively solve problems from birth, even in their early years they are unaware that other people can not easily recognize a solution they find so obvious, and they often wonder when their fellow human beings face obvious problems and problems Solutions do not take action.
As the process of becoming aware of all decision-relevant information takes longer, INFJs are often themselves a mystery. This becomes problematic at the latest when other people urge them to justify their decisions in a comprehensible way. Young INFJs are prone to yielding to other people’s expectations because of their sensitive emotional antennae in order to avoid further arguments. Not infrequently, they are annoyed when they have decided against their intuitive assumptions and confirm this in retrospect as correct.
INFJs often need more time than others to clarify a situation in order to be able to make a decision. Often they gain inner clarity by presenting their solutions to others. For INFJs, exchanges with their fellow human beings are usually very useful because they force them to verbalise their otherwise nebulous insights, thereby giving them a manageable form.
Their second function – extraverted feeling – makes INFJs extremely receptive to other people’s feelings and needs. In combination with their dominant function, they therefore react very sensitively to the emotional signals of their fellow human beings.
INFJs find it very difficult to differentiate themselves from other people’s feelings. They literally feel the feelings of others as their own feelings. This applies to both their positive and negative feelings.
INFJs always see people in two different ways – on the one hand as a person they represent in public, and on the other hand they perceive the beings hidden behind the persona with their profoundly human problems, conflicts and hidden intentions. Their ability to look beyond the facade and perceive things that others like to blind others often causes headaches to INFJs. The conflict that results from the acute perception of such unconscious information is a key issue for INFJs. Not infrequently, INFJs know more about their counterparts than they would admit to themselves. INFJs are living through the unspoken conflicts of their fellow human beings. This can cause great harm to INFJs, especially at a young age, when they lack the opportunities to break away from a negative environment.
INFJs, through their second function, are attuned to meeting the needs of other people. Occasionally, however, they are faced with problems when their fellow human beings ask them to fulfill their needs, which they can not win because of their intuitive insights. Often they try to make their deep insights understandable to other people, to move them, to become aware of their true needs and to seek ways to fulfill them. As a result, INFJs are often in consulting jobs where they assist others in addressing personal issues. In this way, they are able to apply the insights that their intuition conveys to them concretely in the outside world.
Another way to share their insights is to exchange with like-minded people. INFJs like to talk to other topics of interest to them. It can be frustrating for them to realize that few of their fellow human beings are able or willing to follow their complicated train of thought. Conversations with dominant extroverted Intuitives (ENTP and ENFP) seem to be particularly fulfilling for INFJs. The open-minded and optimistic nature of these guys also increases the willingness of a more subdued INFJ to come out and work on implementing his ideas.
When a conflict arises between their own and other people’s needs, they often pay too little attention to their own interests. Because of the described delineation difficulties, INFJs actually find it difficult to know how they themselves feel about a matter. Often they do not know their feelings, because they are superimposed by the feelings of their environment. Many INFJs tend to shift their dissatisfaction from outside to inside, where the hidden tension is often reflected in physical symptoms. INFJs, like other types who direct their emotional function to the outside, tend to become more aware of their own feelings by communicating with other neutral persons who are not part of the conflict.
INFJs often feel the desire to disconnect from everyday life. On the one hand, they do this in order to refuel their reserves like every introverted person. On the other hand, it helps them to differentiate themselves better from their fellow human beings.
Moreover, this distance from the environment is necessary for the functioning of their main process. The insights they gain about introverted intuition are often not immediately accessible. Rather, INFJs work tirelessly to bring to consciousness the content that is vaguely and incompletely imposed on them in everyday life. To do this, they often embark on a conscious search for further information and try to put it together to form a coherent picture of what actually happens. The quality of this image depends on its ability to consciously apply its third function (introverted thinking -ti) and its fourth function (extraverted sensation-se).
Often, this process takes a lot of time, so that INFJs are barely able to classify it properly at the very beginning of an emerging idea, and for the most part, they are also unable to articulate their point of view to others. Unfortunately, in our fast-paced time and given the expectations of others to present fast results, INFJs are often under pressure to suppress or curtail them in their slow internal process, instead taking premature and ill-considered steps. If they are subsequently able to formulate their insights clearly, they have already created final facts with their behavior. The reversal of such decisions often strains their relationships with other people. However, despite the initial reluctance, INFJs remain acutely aware of the deviations of their chosen course from the course they have recognized as right. Accordingly, they often feel exploited and overwhelmed by the expectations of others. In the long term, a deviation from their inner path leads to resignation and depression. Last but not least, with their own dissatisfaction, they burden relations with close people, as they are disappointed and can hurt them.
INFJs can only avoid such a sad state by succeeding in becoming aware of their own goals and in pursuing them consistently.
If INFJs have chosen their right path and are working to realize their ideas, they are often unusually persistent in their implementation. However, like all idealists, INFJs tend to identify strongly with their ideals and less focus on the specific details that accompany the implementation of their plans. They can therefore be quickly disappointed when reality lags behind their perfect visions.
This is particularly hindering in the case of INFJs, since the extraverted feeling is their inferior function . As a result, they usually find it particularly difficult to focus their attention on the details of the achievement of the goals. In addition, dealing with material reality is often excessively difficult. They often need more time to work on the “earthly things” that most people can easily take away from their everyday lives. They often perceive administrative work or routine activities as excessively fatiguing in relation to the actual effort compared to S-types. In addition, INFJs tend to underestimate the time and money involved in planning to realize their vision.
Not a few INFJs are also advice-resistant and rather unwilling to incorporate conflicting opinions of their fellow human beings in their planning. The reason for this is probably the inner certainty that follows from the introverted intuition of being on the right path. Therefore, they take over more often in the implementation of their ideas. However, unlike extroverted intuitives, they are rarely willing to abandon projects that have been taken over or allow for cuts, and therefore tend to cling to their exaggerated ideas until exhaustion of their physical and financial resources. INFJs would therefore be well advised to consider the input of others in the realization of their goals and suitable helpers,
I wrote this profile from my own INFJ perspective. I tried to show the fundamental questions and problems of an INFJ. It is incomplete like all profiles here. I could have continued to write about the strengths and weaknesses of this type. These certainly vary due to individual differences in the differentiation of the four functions (Ni, Fe, Ti, Se). (This applies accordingly to all type profiles on this blog.) They serve only the orientation and the perception of own type-related strengths and weaknesses.You are not to pin down a person to certain characteristics.)
This profile should help especially young INFJs to get to know each other. It is my personal experience and the experience of many INFJs that the key to personal happiness for INFJs is actually self-knowledge. Although INFJs are good at tracking down other people’s problems, they often find it difficult to properly classify themselves as the person they really are. I hope that this profile has highlighted the core problems of the INFJ type.
Unfortunately, INFJ Amber (Pneumoceptor) has discontinued all videos of their popular interaction series with other MBTI types, the following video playlist in conversation with ENFP Mike, owner of the NF-Geeks channel, is still online. On the channel there are still plenty of INFJ videos, as Mike is a declared INFJ fan.
- Introvert Power Channel by INFJ Scott
- Interaction videos between an INFJ and an ENTP (married couple) about communication issues
- INFJ: BelowtheRadar-AbovetheSystem new channel, so far has a good impression
- INFJ male
- Vicky Jo (owner of INFJ.com) in an interview with Walter, an older INFJ
- My Tip: Personalityhacker’s podcast addresses the INFJ’s problem described here as being different from other people’s feelings from the perspective of an ENTP and ENFP, both with INFJ mothers.
PS: INFJs, INFPs, INTJs, and INTPs are among the rarest of the 16 types. My online experience shows that these four types exchange disproportionately to their actual incidence in the population to the MBTI and the underlying theory.