INFPs belong to the group of idealists. Like no other idealist, INFPs are intent on living authentically and adapting their behavior to their emotional experience. Introverted feeling belongs to the judgment functions. The judgmental attitude encourages INFPs to establish within them a fixed value system after they direct their actions and make them independent of the opinions of other people. Her second function lets her recognize the potential of a situation. Often, INFPs are concerned with envisioning a better future in line with their ideals.
Under the influence of extraverted intuition, INFPs are full of creative ideas and open to new developments. In doing so, they also give their fellow human beings the impression of a certain looseness in dealing with structures and conventions.
INFPs have very intense and deep feelings. Since the emotional function is inward, INFPs are less likely to show their feelings to the outside world. For outsiders, they can even appear cool and distant. INFPs usually do not like being directly addressed to their feelings. Also, the conventional request, as it stands for its own person, some feel INFPs as unpleasant, even more so if the questioner is not really interested in the answer. Here they differ significantly from dominant Fe types (ESFJ and ENFJ). INFPs feel the desire of these types to create positive feelings in their fellow human beings, often as superficial and insincere. FeHowever, types are disappointed if their intention to create a harmonious atmosphere is not borne by the INFP.
In general, INFPs only communicate with people who are very close to them. Accordingly, the willingness of an INFP to address particularly touching issues and questions may be viewed as a sign of high confidence and should cause the listener to cautiously handle the feelings of the INFP. INFPs are usually overly sensitive to negative comments about their very important concerns, even if they were not intended by their interlocutor. They usually swallow their anger while internally distancing themselves from the person. Even if they change their attitude to a person as a result of disappointment, this is often not apparent to the outside world. Your opponent must already have a pretty good sense to notice the concern of the INFPs.
INFPs have an excellent understanding of their emotional sensitivities and needs, and are also clearly different from the INFJ , who often finds it difficult to differentiate his feelings from those of others due to his outwardly directed emotional function. INFPs are usually very good listeners, who find it easy to understand and accept others’ concerns and needs without being hasty. They are extremely loyal friends who seriously care about their relationships.
INFPs develop their degree of commitment to other people from their deep emotional attachment to these people. Because of their inner closeness, INFPs often feel an unusually strong affection for people close to them. Accordingly, INFPs are capable of great sacrifice in their close relationships.
In addition to their personal relationships, INFPs also like to commit themselves to an idea or good cause that personally touches and inspires them. Often, INFPs have a humanistic spirit and strive to make life worth living in their community. These INFPs find particular fulfillment in occupations in which they have the opportunity to empower people in their individuality and to contribute their ideas of social justice.
INFPs generally have a relaxed attitude towards their fellow human beings and, like all P-types, prefer things to happen. They are therefore usually quite adaptable and treatable. However, this only applies if INFPs do not see any danger to their internal value system.
Unlike INFJs, INFPs have little desire to share their opinions with their fellow human beings. For the most part, they are not interested in convincing others of their values. Accordingly, they are extremely tolerant of dissenters. They allow others their different way of life and view of things.
Due to their restrained nature occasionally gives the impression, INFPs did not dare to represent an opinion. However, this is deceptive: Often, INFPs are very sure of their point of view. Since this point of view is based on very personal experiences that are intricately intertwined with each other and that is also regularly adjusted and reorganized, they often do not feel like it or they do not bother to convince other people of their views. Many INFPs also fear that the depth of their emotional experience could overwhelm their fellow human beings.
If they find themselves in hopeless situations in which their values are violated, they can behave surprisingly resolutely against the border injured, and they are often willing to take a martyr role.
They are usually perceived by their fellow human beings as unconventional and individualistic characters and like to keep themselves off the mainstream. They are often among the first and most active advocates of alternative life forms. INFPs are very interested in developing their personality. INFPs hate being put in drawers and are well able to disappoint the stereotypical expectations of others about them if they feel they are inappropriately constricted in their personal freedom. However, since INFPs tend to seek harmony, they usually avoid open confrontation and show their reluctance passively through non-compliant behavior.
The inferior function of INFP is extraverted thinking. Similar to ISFPs, INFPs often initiate institutionalized practices that do not meet the needs of individuals. INFPs like to overlook the influence that lack of extraverted thinking has on their decisions. Especially at a young age, INFPs are often tempted by their dominant function of setting themselves unrealistic goals, both privately and professionally, causing many a dream ship to crash on the cliffs of everyday life. Not infrequently, they react angrily to the circumstances and criticize the incompetence of other people who, in their view, have contributed to the failure of their ideas instead of critically questioning the accessibility of their ideals.
INFPs like to deal with questions about their identity and the meaning of life. Often they feel an inner urge to find their vocation in life. Under the influence of their second function, the extraverted intuition, it is easy for them to find alternative ways. The property of their second function seemingly endless possibilities to generate, however, has a downside. Especially when INFPs sense a match between their inner ideal and external experience, they draw attention to their extraverted intuition to new possibilities and trigger doubts in their chosen direction. INFPs often experience periods of restlessness in which they question everything. It is not easy for them to articulate their concerns and to give their families and friends reasons for their dissatisfaction.
These phases of reorientation give INFPs the opportunity to soften their solid inner ideas and adapt them to their outer experience. However, like all introverted judges, INFPs are wary of questioning their opinion in light of new information. Young and immature INFPs with an insufficiently developed second function therefore tend to allow new information only to the extent that their previous value system does not question. They usually achieve this in two ways. Either they are always looking for projects and are prepared to break them off if their everyday life does not meet their expectations or they suppress their dissatisfaction and remain in circumstances such as occupations that they do not fill internally. While superficially fulfilling the expectations of other people in professional life, they internally distance themselves from it and retreat back to their private lives. So they try to remain true to themselves and at the same time change nothing in the circumstances that affect them.
INFPs, who do not tolerate a contradiction between their ideas and their experiences, end up experiencing situations that do not bring them any new insights and thus stew in their own juice. As they seek to live their private lives in accordance with their preferences, they avoid any situation beyond their private sphere that might offend them. In fact, they reject new experiences based on their prejudices. At the same time they escape the invigorating effect of new insights.
Since they do not deal with the divergent views of their fellow human beings and the rules of the game of the outside world, they are increasingly difficult to understand other points of view with increasing foreclosure. As a result, they also lose the tolerance to others, which is usually indicative of their healthy type. In other people’s eyes, the behavior of such INFPs is often eccentric and unadapted.
The stagnation stemming from such an aberration is resolved by INFPs who accept that they must embark on a new situation without prejudice, allowing for experiences that do not meet their idealistic expectations of life. Only when they do not perceive a foreign point of view as a threat to their own point of view, can they honestly deal with it and, as a result, they succeed in adapting their own ideas to reality. Such a relaxed attitude towards new experiences may initially lead to a loss of value from the point of view of the INFP. In fact, this adaptation of their ideals is a necessary step to true self-realization. INFPs that shape their ideals in line with the real world are more influential in their lives than those